Thursday, May 29, 2008

Memorial Day Weekend


We spent last weekend in Maine for the wedding of good friends. I have known the groom since high school and have really enjoyed getting to know the bride much better over the course of the past year while they have been living nearby. I'm sad they're moving back to DC soon :( We got to spend time with old friends and enjoy the company of other people's kids, including our friends' three year old daughter who had fun the morning after the wedding trying to hit lanterns in the partially-dismantled tent with a beach ball:



And our other friends' five year old son: a ring bearer who couldn't wait to get his tux off:


We met the latter friends' five week old son for the first time, and P held him without seeming terrified, which was new. He held their older son (the afore-photographed five year old) when he was three weeks old, but I had to hand him to him and position him in his arms and take him away when he squirmed. With the new baby, he was willing to take him from me and try changing positions when he fussed. Evidently knowing he might have to do this soon enough has made him realize he desperately needs practice :)

As for the wedding itself, it was beautiful. My brother is an event planner and floral designer (in Newport, RI, if anyone is looking for one -- let me know!), and this was his first solo event (i.e. not with the company he has worked with for years). The bride and groom got engaged in Turkey and wanted a Turkish themed wedding, and he definitely delivered. Sadly, I didn't take many photos during the reception.

{whiny bitch}In the end, I found myself a bit resentful the night of the wedding, though, which sucked. Sometimes I wish that P had to make even the smallest adjustments in his life during pregnancy. Generally speaking, I haven't minded not drinking, modifying my eating habits, etc., but P spent the evening drinking and smoking cigars (and other things) and it was a little harder for me to deal with. I feel bad bitching, and it's not like I want to NOT have to give things up (seriously, I'm happy to give them up) -- instead, it's just that I wish P had to join me in some of it. And, to sound like a very typical bitchy wife, I don't want to have to tell him that I want him to go through it with me -- I want him to want to do it. It's his kid too!{/whiny bitch}

13 comments:

mo*reezy said...

oh dear - you aren't being a bitch, believe me. And you aren't the only one whose husband doesn't get it on instinct, either. I'm sorry you feel alone in your sacrificing - it would be nice if your husband (and all of ours, too) would make some lifestyle changes to help us feel like a team during this. I know I sure would like to give spread some of this excruciating pain from my pelvis to his at times! Keep your chin up, dear - you aren't a whiny bitch.

Loren said...

Eh, blame it on the hormones. They're an easy target. ;)
How cute that P was so brave with the newborn. He better get ready! His will be even NEWER!

(thanks for the compliment, btw. so sweet. every preggo loves a compliment!)

Katie said...

Here from NCLM and wanted to say that I love that picture in Maine! And I don't think you were being a whiny bitch, just a pregnant wife :)

Jen said...

That doesn't seem bitchy, it seems like a reasonable request. :) The wedding looks fun though.

Mme. Meow said...

It is hard to see the world not having to adjust, isn't it? Wishing you understanding with your P.

(here through NaComLeavMo)

Duck said...

nacomleavmo
Congrats on the pregnancy.

Cece said...

You crack me up - I feel the same way. Aaron is somewhat annoyed a times that I'm so. tired. And I'm like - I'm growing a FREAKING HUMAN BEING. He goes on as usual, doing his thing, and sometimes I feel like punching his face in. Well. Not really. But you know what I mean, lol.

Katie said...

Via NaComLeavMo....
I hate it when men do that! However they can't help that there brains just can't cope with the subtleties of our minds! Maybe just put an end to the annoyance and tell him?

Paranoid said...

Wow, you are way nicer than I am. The way I see it, if I can't drink, then neither can The Boy. It's a respect thing. I would never ask him to give up coffee (if I did, he'd probably die right there on the spot), but foregoing beer for 9 months just isn't too much to ask.

JamieD said...

I don't think you are being bitchy at all - just asking for a little empathy!!

NCLM

Jendeis said...

Here from NaComLeavMo. I'm with you on the mind-reading thing. It's like Rosie says in White Men Can't Jump, When I get thirsty, I don't want you to bring me a drink of water, I want you to say that I have experienced thirst too and know how you feel. :) Congratulations on your little one.

momofonefornow said...

over from nclm

I was exactly the same way during my pregnancy. It used to frustrate me that my dh did things that I couldn't do.

Sharon said...

hey there from NCLM....and I loved that pic of Maine..I was born there and lived in Maine for several years...will be there in AUG. because DH is also from there and we are seeing both sides of the family! Quite the trip from Seattle...

Totally understand you feeling resentful about HUBBY....they don't get it sometimes!!

Take care of you!
Hugs
Sharon